One couple I know made a vow on their wedding day to “out-serve” each other.  My husband and I evolved a pattern of making decisions based on who feels most strongly about the matter.  If I want Chinese food, but he really wants Italian, we get Italian.  If I really want him to watch a Jane Austen movie with me, he does, until he falls asleep 45 minutes later.  It doesn’t matter who “won” last time, because a next time is always coming up.  The future just keeps rolling into the present, and more good things to give and to receive will always be appearing.

Glory and Honor: Orthodox Christian Resources on Marriage