Find someone who actually, really, truly believes marriage is a journey toward salvation; People get married for all sorts of reasons, not all of which are bad, but truly this is the highest calling and deepest meaning of marriage: to walk through life with a companion who shares your desire for union with Christ, who knows that the journey will not be easy but will be worth every step and any suffering, and who is seeking the Kingdom of God, proclaiming His good news, and becoming a light to the world. Find someone with this desire, dear ones. Life is inevitably full of joys and trials; marry a man who sees each happening through the lens of Christ, and together, you will reach heaven.