SO GOOD QUOTES

The first sign of pride is to measure the other by your yardstick
by Archpriest Sergei Filimonov.

Why do we show dissatisfaction with others? Why are we annoyed with them or are angry? There are several reasons for this. First, we measure another person with our yardstick. When we are healthy, when our heart beats smoothly, normal pressure, when both eyes see and both knees bend, we can not understand another person who feels bad. Our character is equal, but maybe that person is a choleric person, or vice versa – he is calmer and more pragmatic than we are.

“I”, which reigns in our heart, makes us look at other people through the prism of our own physical, mental and spiritual properties, and we involuntarily consider ourselves a stencil, a model for others. From this, a storm begins in my soul: I do, but he does not; I do not get tired, but he complains that he is tired; I sleep five hours, and you see, eight hours are not enough for him; I work tirelessly, but he shirks and early leaves to sleep. This is characteristic of a proud person; namely the proud says: “Why am I doing this, but he does not? Why do I keep it, but he does not? Why can I, but he can not cope? ”

But the Lord created all people different. Each of us has our own life, our own way of life, our life situations. Well-fed does not understand, a healthy patient will never understand. A person who does not pass through troubles and temptations will not understand the grieving person. A happy father will not understand an orphaned child who has lost his father. The bride will not understand the divorced. A person who has parents alive will not understand the one who just buried his mother. One can theorize, but there is a practice of life. We often do not have life experience, and when we start to find it, we remember those who were condemned, with whom we were strict. We did not understand what this man was feeling. We tried to edify him, but he was not up to remarks. His hands sank with grief, his soul was mourning, he did not need moral teachings and high-flown words. All he needed was sympathy, compassion and consolation, but we did not understand it. And when the Lord conducts us through the same, we begin to feel what the other person felt.

Here is one of the signs of pride – we measure other people by our yardstick. When we do this, it shows that there is no magnanimity in us. And all that is needed is to try not to condemn another person, not to be irritated, but to accept him as he is. But it is difficult.