He who reproaches himself is able to live in continual peace with others. Even if a misunderstanding were to arise, through his self-reproaching, reconciliation is easily attained. Strife worsens when each party persists in his own stand, each justifying himself that he is in the right, and the other in the wrong.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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Undoubtedly, the humble person who reproaches himself feels compassion for others. He knows too well the weakness of the human soul before Satan’s attacks and wiles, cunningness and enticements. Thence he gives excuses to whoever falls, and is never cruel in his judgement whatsoever, remembering the words of Saint Paul the Apostle, “Remember the prisoners as if chained with them… since you yourselves are in the body also” (Heb. 13:3). One of the lovely matters in the spiritual life is that you become severe with yourself, reproaching yourself for every fault, but in contrast increase in compassion for sinners, trying to give them excuses as much as you are able.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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Regarding this, I would like to make a painful observation, which is that many say that they are sinners when deep inside they do not believe it. Such a person might use the word ‘sinner’ about himself, merely with his lips, in order to appear humble, but inside he is not convinced that he is a sinner. If you say to him, “You have sinned”, he will become enraged with you and vehemently defend himself.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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For some, confession turns into complaining about others! They may complain about their circumstances at home or at work or in the church, like the wife, for example, who sits with the father confessor to confess. She narrates to him her husband’s ill-treatment, and so confesses her husband’s sins, and not her own. Or she may confess the difficulties and troubles in her life, but regarding herself, she says nothing because before going to confession, she did not reproach herself.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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The person who reproaches himself is preoccupied with rectifying himself. In his shame over his errors, he does not look at the sins of others. Regarding this the saints said, “He who is preoccupied with his own sins has no time to condemn his brother’s sins”
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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Beware of tranquilising words such as, “Oh! God is kind! Don’t trouble yourself! The least thing will do, the least word will take you there”. No- talk not so; these words are desensitizing. They are said to people to make them feel happy and not disturbed- but the truth is the truth, and that is that we shall stand before the Just Judge.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge
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If one person were to say to another, “I will continue to be disloyal to You until death, but at the hour of death, I will stop being disloyal”, would you consider this acceptable? Can one person say to another, “I am still young; I will continue to be unfaithful to you, but when I am older, I will stop being unfaithful”? What does this mean? It means, “It is still early days- do not disturb us by talking about the hour of death”. But what about your relationship with God? Let us leave the hour of death aside. Suppose you will live for a hundred years. Would you betray the Lord now, challenge Him now, grieve the Holy Spirit now?
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, Before the Just Judge