Most married people did not marry on the proper bases. Consequently, they suffer regret for having married. Unable to confront themselves with this fact, they enter into an unconscious psychological trick, called denial, i.e., denying the suffering of regret. Having convinced themselves that a troublesome marriage is better than living a single life, they strive to comfort and console themselves.
When such people meet a happy unmarried person, they get disturbed by their status which shakes and threatens the foundation supporting their views and arouses the feeling of regret for their situation. Such an unhappily married person may, in an aggressive and hastening manner, start pressuring the single person to marry. They support their contention with some weak and unconvincing arguments such as:
“Marriage is the rule of life. Everyone should marry. Our fathers and grandfathers told us that everybody should marry, etc”
I Have No One: The Problem with Delayed Marriage
Dr. Niveen Adel Sadek
Category: MARRIAGE
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If you are not yet married, you are in a better position and more fortunate than someone who has made a wrong choice and is suffering from a wrong marital bond. Such a person has exhausted the only life-time marriage opportunity, unlike you, who still has the chance to be bonded with the appropriate person, even if the chance has been delayed.
“Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” (Habakkuk 2:3)
I Have No One: The Problem with Delayed Marriage
Dr. Niveen Adel Sadek -
Naturally, when he comes to choose a partner, he will take to account his parents’ opinion. How often have parents felt knives piercing their hearts when their children don’t ask them about the person who will be their companion in life? A mother’s heart is sensitive, and can’t endure such a blow. The child should discuss matters with his parents, because they have a special intuition enabling them to be aware of the things which concern them.
—Archimandrite Aimilianos of Simonopetra, Mount Athos, Marriage: The Great Sacrament, A Sermon delivered in the Church of St. Nicholas, Trikala, Greece, 17 January, 1971 -
The message that the Lord is sending our way is the following, there might be a lion in your life, threatening your spiritual and eternal life, and the physical desires of your body could be very strong in your life; however, if you submit to God, His Spirit will come upon you just like Samson, and you will be able to slaughter that lion which is threatening your eternal life. Not only will you kill the lion, but also honey could come forth out of it, and you could then say along with Samson:
“Out of the eater came something to eat, and out of the strong came something sweet.” Judges 14:14) The physical desires, which are ruining your life, could thus be transformed into a relationship of love with God, similar to St. Augustine.
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Do not seek excuses, saying that the physical desires are very strong; what should you do if your instincts are too strong to control? Submit to the Spirit of God; as the Spirit of the Lord came upon Samson and enabled him to overpower the lion, and as St. Augustine was able to control his desires, so shall you, and you will be able to kill that lion which is threatening your spiritual life as well as your eternal life.
CHOOSE YOUR SPOUSE
BISHOP YOUSSEF -
Kate was Danish, and she was probably the most intelligent person I have ever met; well, not that it has any real importance, intelligence barely has any importance in a friendship let alone in a romantic relationship, it has less weight than a good heart; I mention it particularly because her incredible intellectual agility and her unusual capacity for assimilation were truly a curiosity, a phenomenon.
Serotonin: A Novel
Michel Houellebecq -
So, yes, I could have lived alone with Camille, in that isolated house in the middle of the woods, and I would have seen the sun rise over the lake every morning, and I think that, in so far as such a thing had been granted to me, I could have been happy. But life, as they say, had decided otherwise.
Serotonin: A Novel
Michel Houellebecq -
I could have made a woman happy. Well, two; I have said which ones. Everything was clear, extremely clear from the beginning, but we didn’t realise. Did we yield to the illusion of individual freedom, of an open life, of infinite possibilities? It’s possible; those ideas were part of the spirit of the age; we didn’t formalise them, we didn’t have the taste to do that; we merely conformed and allowed ourselves to be destroyed by them; and then, for a very long time, to suffer as a result.
Serotonin: A Novel
Michel Houellebecq
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