SO GOOD QUOTES

  • “We seek more and more independence, and feel more and more alienated and lonely when we get it.”

    —Slater, P. (1970). The Pursuit of Loneliness: American Culture at the Breaking Point. Boston: Beacon Press.

    Encountering Loneliness: Which Condition Applies to You?

  • Enter into your entertainments only as you are asked to do so. Be friendly, but do not seek out invitations.  Those who watch you, at least the reasonable ones, will be happy to see you sociable enough to join them, but be careful enough to not always be found entertaining yourself.  When you do appear at these entertainments, do so in a godly manner.  The world is critical of people who condemn its ways while living by its rules.

    —François Fénelon, The Seeking Heart

  • Now and then, especially at night, solitude loses its soft power and loneliness takes over. I am grateful when solitude returns.

    Between Solitude and Loneliness
    Donald Hall

  • Try to be more attentive to yourself instead of judging the actions, behavior, and attitude of others towards you; if you do not see love in them, it is because you yourself have no love within you.”

     —Elder Leo of Optina

  • Loneliness is felt only by the person who doesn’t love, and this loneliness becomes greater when they want/expect others to love them.

    —Elder Aimilianos of Simonopetra

  • And in your heart you will now be free at last and utterly alone. It is only in this aloneness, this utter solitude, that dependence and desire will die, and the capacity to love is born. For one no longer sees others as means to satisfy one’s addiction.

    ―Anthony de Mello, The Way to Love

  • We all enter the Infinite Scroll shouting, hoping to find love.

    Bimbo Ubermensch
    The Ocean

  • Our friendship was not entirely pure, although it’s worth acknowledging that few friendships are truly pure. Most friendships, to varying degrees, are based on proximity and convenience.

    Bimbo Ubermensch

    The Ocean

  • It’s impossible to know someone for too long and too well without inevitably despising them. It’s better to space out your meetings with your friends and loved ones so you don’t get to know them too well and end up hating them.

    Bimbo Ubermensch

  • If I have the feeling that I am applying boundaries in an improper way, I ought to open the doors once again, because boundaries preserve relationships, and not destroy them.

    —H.E. Metropolitan Youssef, How to Build Boundaries

    Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house,

    Lest he become weary of you and hate you.

    Proverbs 25:17 (NKJV)