But even the closest relationship is bound to have flaws and disadvantages, and it is often because people do not accept this that they are more unhappy than they need be, and more inclined to abandon one another.  If it is accepted that no relationship is ever ideal, it makes it easier to understand why men and women need other sources of fulfilment.  As we have seen, many creative activities are predominantly solitary.  They are concerned with self-realization and self-development in isolation, or with finding some coherent pattern in life.  The degree to which these creative activities take priority in the life of an individual varies with his personality and talents.  Everyone needs some human relationships; but everyone also needs some kind of fulfilment which is relevant to himself alone.  Provided that they have friends and acquaintances, those who are passionately engaged in pursuing interests which are important to them may achieve happiness without having any very close relationships.

Solitude, a Return to the Self