One need not be a monk to be modest in words, actions and dress.  Modesty is not drawing attention to yourself, to your wisdom, your charm, your humour or your physical beauty.  Modesty is acting in public in ways that do not draw attention to yourself. If you want to begin to live in exile from the world, St. John recommends that you start with modesty. Dress, speak and act in ways that don’t draw attention to yourself. Those who see themselves as exiles do not seek to stand out.

—Fr. Michael Gillis