The Holy Fathers say that, unless we humble ourselves, the Lord will not stop humbling us. He will use someone in order to humble us. Someone will provoke our anger and do it until we learn to remain calm and peaceful when provoked. When we can stay calm when someone attacks us from all sides, when we can keep our inner peace in spite of that person’s rudeness, then our soul will become meek and humble and we will live this life with a full understanding of it. And our neighbors will tell us, “You have changed; you used to have a fiery temperament, but now you have somehow become calm and dispassionate.”
—Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica, Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives
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Therefore, keep watch over yourself and be deliberate. If you notice that you are becoming irritable and intolerant, lighten your load a little. If you have the desire to look askance at others, to reproach or instruct or make remarks, you are on the wrong road: he who denies himself, has nothing with which to reproach others. If you think you are becoming “disturbed” by people or by external circumstances, you have not understood your work aright: everything that at first glance appears disturbing is really given as an opportunity to practice in tolerance, patience and obedience. The humble man cannot be disturbed, he can only disturb.
Way of the Ascetics: The Ancient Tradition of Discipline and Inner Growth
Tito Colliander -
“We learned quickly, however, that freshly picked oranges were not the best for making orange juice. The best were the ones that had been set aside for a week or ten days. These were the sweetest. The sour edge is taken off with time.
I have found the same thing is true about what we say—the juice of our soul, you might say. I have found that it is usually better for me to say nothing at the beginning, at the moment I feel like saying something. At that moment, it is usually best not to say anything because if I say something the very moment I feel like saying it, the juice is not sweet. It’s sour. And no matter how true or right what I have to say is, all the hearer notices is the sour, bitter, angry or judgmental note hidden in my words. Even when I do not intend to communicate anything but truth and edification, a bit of the bitterness or arrogance or prejudice of my own soul slips in and somehow sours the entire message.”
___O Lord Jesus Christ, grant me the strength to keep silent in knowledge, and the grace to know when it is necessary to speak without passion.
—St. BarsanuphiusOn Remaining Silent, Praying in the Rain
Fr. Michael Gillis -
…‘O Lord, have I not asked you to free me from this anger?’ And the Lord answered, ‘Yes, Philip, and for this reason I am multiplying the occasions for you to learn.’
—Met. Anthony Bloom, Beginning To Pray -
If you are patient, the Holy Spirit that dwells in you will be pure. He will not be darkened by any evil spirit, he will rejoice and be glad; and with the vessel in which he dwells, he will serve God in gladness, having great peace within himself. But if any outburst of anger takes place, the Holy Spirit seeks to depart because He does not have a pure place. For the Lord dwells in patience, but the devil in anger. The two spirits, then, when living in the same place, are in conflict with each other and are troublesome to the person in whom they dwell. For if an extremely small piece of wormwood is put into a jar of honey, isn’t the honey entirely destroyed? And doesn’t the extremely small piece of wormwood take away the sweetness of the honey entirely so that it no longer pleases its owner, but has become bitter and lost its use? But if the wormwood isn’t put into the honey, then the honey remains sweet and is useful to its owner. You see, then, that patience is sweeter than honey. It is useful to God, and the Lord dwells in it. But anger is bitter and useless. If anger is mixed with patience, then the patience is polluted, and its prayer becomes useless to God.
—Hermas -
A lot of times, we think there is a problem in my life because of this or that. We rarely think that it’s my sins that are causing a problem.
It’s not my coworker, it’s not my life situation, it’s not my illness, not my family situation, or anything else; it’s my sins. My sins are making me incapable of dealing with this problem in a way that a true christian would deal with it. No matter your problems, no matter whose fault it is, it’s also always your fault. That’s the way a Christian thinks.
—Fr. Seraphim Holland -
Everything, the merest trifles, even the smoke of a candle blowing on him, irritates and angers the impatient man, because he is very self-loving, and cares much for the welfare and comfort of his carnal man, which he ought oftener to crucify in different ways.
—St. John of Kronstadt, My Life in Christ -
These angers are crippling, like a fit when they happen, and then, when they are over, haunting me with remorse. Those who know me well and love me have come to accept them as part of me; yet I know they are unacceptable.
—May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude -
What we gain from fasting does not compensate for what we lose through anger. Our profit from scriptural reading in no way equals the damage we cause ourselves by showing contempt for a brother. We must practice fasting, vigils, withdrawal, and the meditation of Scripture as activities which are subordinate to our main objective, purity of heart, that is to say, love, and we must never disturb this principal virtue for the sake of those others. If this virtue remains whole and unharmed within us nothing can injure us, not even if we are forced to omit any of those other subordinate virtues. Nor will it be of any use to have practiced all these latter if there is missing in us that principal objective for the sake of which all else is undertaken.
—St. John Cassian (Conferences, Conf. One sect. 7; Paulist Press pg. 42)
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