Being a human means accepting promises from other people and trusting that other people will be good to you. When that is too much to bear, it is always possible to retreat into the thought, “I’ll live for my own comfort, for my own revenge, for my own anger, and I just won’t be a member of society anymore.” That really means, “I won’t be a human being anymore.”
You see people doing that today where they feel that society has let them down, and they can’t ask anything of it, and they can’t put their hopes on anything outside themselves. You see them actually retreating to a life in which they think only of their own satisfaction, and maybe the satisfaction of their revenge against society. But the life that no longer trusts another human being and no longer forms ties to the political community is not a human life any longer.
Philosopher Martha Nussbaum on How to Live with Our Human Fragility
Category: ANGER
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I’ve seen lives changed on the sick bed, monsters turn into babies on the sick bed—monsters—people that no one can talk to, and they’re babies, holding the hands of their loved ones, saying, “Forgive me, I know I was difficult. I’m sorry—you endured a lot from me. I caused you a lot of pain, and I was a monster, and I was a terrible person, and I hope God can forgive me.”
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13. She also said, ‘It is good not to get angry, but if this should happen, the Apostle does not allow you a whole day for this passion, for he says: “Let not the sun go down.” (Eph. 4.25) Will you wait till all your time is ended? Why hate the man who has grieved you? It is not he who has done the wrong, but the devil. Hate sickness but not the sick person.’
Sayings of Amma Syncletica -
Those who scorn to grasp what is profitable and salutary are considered to be ill. Those, on the other hand, who comprehend the truth but insolently enjoy dispute, have an intelligence that is dead; and their behavior has become brutish. They do not know God and their soul has not been illumined.
Anthony the Great: On the Character of Men and on the Virtuous Life: One Hundred and Seventy Texts
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I should like to add that Isaac the Syrian insists on penitence, necessary alike for those who are conscious of sinning greatly and for those who are not; there is no perfection in any of us here on earth. The true signs of sincere penitence are the taming of the beast of anger, and the abstinence from all condemnation of others. Anger is always a sign of great pride. Our Lord calls him who condemns others, oblivious of his own faults, a hypocrite.
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When someone hurts you, do not answer back, but meet the hurt with silence.
—H.H. Pope Shenouda III, A Whisper of Love: Poems, Prayers and Sayings -
Keep in mind one thing that’s very important, controlling the tongue cannot happen without asking the grace of God. Sometimes people say, You know what, I held my tongue, but I couldn’t. Well, of course, when you control yourself and your feelings and you don’t offer them to God, you will only be able to do it in a natural way, which only would last you for a small part of time. But this is not the Christian way of controlling. The Christian way of controlling is to lift all our pain and suffering to the Lord that he may use his suffering to transform us and transform our community and transform people around us.
—Fr. Mina Dimitri
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