Category: LONELINESS & SOLITUDE

  • We seldom fully realize that we are sent to fulfill God-given tasks. We act as if we have to choose how, where, and with whom to live. We act as if we were simply dropped down in creation and have to decide how to entertain ourselves until we die. But we were sent into the world by God, just as Jesus was. Once we start living our lives with that conviction, we will soon know what we were sent to do. These tasks may be very specialized, or they may be the general task of loving one another in everyday life.

    —Henri Nouwen, Discernment: Reading the Signs of Daily Life

  • From the beginning, two inner voices have been speaking to me: one saying, “Henri, be sure you make it on your own. Be sure you become an independent person. Be sure I can be proud of you,” and another voice saying, “Henri, whatever you are going to do, even if you don’t do anything very interesting in the eyes of the world, be sure you stay close to the heart of Jesus; be sure you stay close to the love of God.”

    —Henri Nouwen, Discernment: Reading the Signs of Daily Life

  • “Conquer men by your gentle kindness, and make zealous men wonder at your goodness. Put the lover of justice to shame by your compassion. With the afflicted be afflicted in mind. Love all men, but keep distant from all men.

    St. Isaac the Syrian

  • “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another.”

    —Thomas Merton, Love and Living

  • “Examine yourself to see whether you have within you a strong sense of your own self-importance, or negatively, whether you have failed to realize that you are nothing. This feeling of self-importance is deeply hidden, but it controls the whole of our life. Its first demand is that everything should be as we wish it, and as soon as this is not so we complain to God and are annoyed with people.”

    St. Theophan the Recluse

  • When I understood that neither parents, nor family, nor friends, nor anyone in the world could offer me anything but pain, insults, and wounds, I resolved to stop living for the world and to dedicate my few remaining days in this life to the Lord. I understood that I had no one in the world except God.

    —Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica, Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives

  • And so we come to realize that our support here in this life is nil. “There is no one who can understand me,” we say. The soul seeks unchangeable love, but there is no such thing here on Earth. Only the Lord can comfort us.

    —Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica, Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives

  • “The greater the intellect one has, the more originality one finds in men. Ordinary persons find no difference between men.”

    —Blaise Pascal, Pensées

  • Do not seek higher posts and higher titles: the lower the position of service you have, the freer you are.

    —Tito Colliander,Way of the Ascetics: The Ancient Tradition of Discipline and Inner Growth

  • We are children, and as children of the Heavenly Father we should ask for the support of our Parent. Because we were born of earthly parents, we seek support from them. But they have their cares and their worries; they are beset by all kinds of trouble and difficulties. We look to them for guidance and support, but they do not look after us. “You should have a head on your shoulders—use it. You’re a grown man,” they tell us. The Heavenly Father, however, never avoids helping us. He is always looking after us, always guiding us, if our heart is united with Him. But if we look for support in the world, it will be very difficult to find. It is very hard to find a person who is of one mind and thought with us.

    —Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica, Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives